I agree… There’s a sense of expectation inherent in the phrase. Just a simple “or never” would be good to tack on the end. Or else clearly establish that you’re not interested in a sexless relationship.
Ino
So much this….
Lately I’ve been really bothered by any variation of the phrase, “We don’t have to have sex now. We can wait as long as you need.” I get that it’s people trying to be respectful, but I feel pressured anyway? Like waiting implies there’s a definitive end you’re anticipating, so sex is a foregone conclusion. And then it just feels like I’m being scrutinized for signs that I’m “finally ready.” Ironically, I’m generally sex-neutral-to-favorable! But this phrase irks the shit out of me.
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