Hey I have a question. Feel free to ignore me. Are you still considered an Asexual if you /want/ to have sex? Because all I’ve seen from people online is that they’re not that keen on it. (I’m still questioning) I feel like I might come under the ace spectrum simply because I don’t feel sexual attraction to people, but I’m not Indifferent to or repulsed by sex. Does that still make me ace?

threshie:

whelvenwings:

hey!!! not at all, questions are more than welcome, especially when they’re asked so respectfully. thank you for that. ❤

asexuality is just as simple as not feeling sexual attraction. if you don’t feel sexual attraction, then you are ace!

wanting to have sex, getting turned on, having a libido, and other feelings related to sex don’t affect whether or not you are ace. asexuality is interpersonal – it’s about whether you feel sexual attraction to other people. this is similar to other orientations. a person being bisexual doesn’t tell you how much they like/want/have sex, just who they are attracted to.

I hope that helps!!

Heyo, ace who has sex here. *raises hand* I’m reblogging because this post is right – being asexual has to do with whether you feel sexual attraction, not whether or not you have sex. You’re still ace if you have sex!

The best analogy I’ve heard to describe being ace uses donuts:

Some folks might not want anything to do with donuts – don’t even want to think about someone else eating them. Some are indifferent – meh, donuts are okay. Might eat one with somebody they love to make them happy. And for some, donuts taste good, and they’ll eat them because they taste good.

Nobody actually gets hungry for donuts or cannot resist a big box of them in the middle of the table, though.

This is awesome!