thedarkperidot:

Sometimes abuse stops our ability to say no.

“I don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings”

“If I say no, they might hurt me”

“I need to do this to prove myself”

“I deserve this”

“It won’t be that bad”

I want to tell you that your trauma is still valid if you did something you didn’t want to do. It’s not your fault if you didn’t say “no”, even if you think maybe you could have. You didn’t deserve what happened to you and you didn’t bring it upon yourself. It was never your fault.