The other day I was washing my hands and another woman came out the stall a couple seconds after I did. She wasn’t cis, and a different woman waiting for someone to finish up looked angry and opened her mouth to say something. Before she could, I smiled real friendly a this woman who’s just trynna wash her hands and told her I loved her skirt, and we started talking clothes.
The waiting woman was still clearly pissed but she didn’t say anything because she knew I wouldn’t have her back. That’s all it took to keep some poor lady just trynna scrub up from getting harassed.
Sometimes doing the right thing is really hard and kinda scary. Other times all it takes is making it clear that you won’t support someone’s nastiness. It’s a little enough thing to do your part.
Cis women: read this.
YOU ABSOLUTE GENIUS
i never would’ve thought to diffuse the situation like that a+++++++++ job
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Dean’s retirement dream.
Amazing art, this made my day!
Yesss…
Good morning! I’m salty.
I think we, as a general community, need to start taking this little moment more seriously.
This, right here? This is asking for consent. It’s a legal necessity, yes, but it is also you, the reader, actively consenting to see adult content; and in doing so, saying that you are of an age to see it, and that you’re emotionally capable of handling it.
You find the content you find behind this warning disgusting, horrifying, upsetting, triggering? You consented. You said you could handle it, and you were able to back out at any time. You take responsibility for yourself when you click through this, and so long as the creator used warnings and tags correctly, you bear full responsibility for its impact on you.
“Children are going to lie about their age” is probably true, but that’s the problem of them and the people who are responsible for them, not the people that they lie to.
If you’re not prepared to see adult content, created by and for adults, don’t fucking click through this. And if you do, for all that’s holy, don’t blame anyone else for it.
^^^^^^^^^^^
Also: if you are an ‘adult’? You can read the damned tags. And filter your consumption accordingly.
This was heartbreaking.
it’s so common for “being straight & cis is normal” people to get hung up on what’s most evolutionarily “efficient” like they come at you with “if Men and Women didn’t have sex and continue the species we wouldn’t have made it this far so it doesn’t make sense to be anything but Straight and Cis,” and I really want to ask them when humans have Ever Ever Ever picked the most efficient route. Why did we ever leave the equator then in the first place, to willfully live on tundras and freezing islands where not much grows?
Why did people move to mountains where future generations needed to be born with bigger lungs to breathe right?
Why have humans historically, for tens of thousands of years, cared for the sick and the disabled and the injured even thought that wouldn’t be an “efficient” use of resources? Why did we ever develop a sense of compassion at all?
Why did any human ever leave home to cross an ocean, or a desert, or a jungle, hoping to find a way to live whether they ended up?
We have never followed the rule of “efficiency.” In fact, read any reputable paper on human evolution and success, and you’ll see it argue that our refusal to follow the “efficient” road is what actually made the human species so successful–that our unrivaled adaptability and unprecedented resilience in an ever-changing world is what put us on top for so long.
So if you can’t keep up with “all these new genders and sexualities,” it seems like you’re the inefficient one, the weak link, and you’re going to get picked out and left behind.
Humans consistently make choices that are weird even by our own standards and that’s about the only thing that is consistent about us.
How long do I have to wait until I KNOW I’m not just a late bloomer?
So like… you don’t. If you want to identify a way, if you’re thinking about identifying a way, then you’re old enough to identify that way.
If it turns out that you mislabeled, that something new happens, that you were a ‘late bloomer’, that you discover new feelings, that you start understanding more of yourself, etc., then it’s perfectly fine to change how you identify! How you feel now doesn’t have to be how you feel forever in order to be valid. I think actually the minority of us actually have it all figured out the first time we pick a label or even the first time we come out. So many of us identify a way, only to later learn more options that we connect with more or discover a new faucet of our identity.
But you’re not required to wait any amount of time and pass some test or meet some bar to be allowed to identify a way if you’re thinking about doing so and want to. ^^
some reverse!verse armored angel dean tonight!!
i love leisurely sketching and this certainly hit the spot
Karate, SPN Demonic Octopus Guardian 