Talking with @bendingsignpost about non-traditional a/b/o and I’ve decided that it’s COMPLETELY RIDICULOUS that only mates scent bond. Like, why don’t people smell each other and suddenly decide Yes You’re My Family Now?
Sam gets a whiff of Castiel and adopts him as a new brother. Dean adopts a gaggle of teens because the hormones that drive his daddy instinct are higher than normal.
And of course Ben pointed out the obvious: Bobby grabbing the Winchester boys and keeping them as his own.
MOAR NON-TRADITIONAL SCENT BONDS PLS KTHXBAI.
Yes! 😀 I’m all about this! I use scent for all kinds of bonds in Packrunners. Friendship bonds, family bonds, mating bonds. Inability to smell as a major handicap that affects one’s social life. Bonds altering the scent slightly so people can smell you’re bonded and even distinguish between friendship bonds and mating bonds. Societal norms based on scent like ‘signing’ a document by putting a scent mark on the paper or scent marking the plaque outside your office so people know you’re in. Omegas ‘skunking’ if they’re pushed for sex when they’re unwilling, rendering Alphas unable to get it up or making them lose their boners. (Hah! Screw rapey ABOs. If scent is a turn on then it can just as easily be a turnoff!) The possibilities are endless!
In response to some comments I’ve seen about how Sam and Cas had no meaningful interactions this season and don’t deserve the TCA nomination and/or those who think it actually went to Sam and Lucifer.
Friendly reminder that
- Sure, this isn’t huge, but Sam attentively cared for Cas in 11.03. Attack-Dog Spell Cas and Sam sassed each other when Sam poked fun at Castiel’s car, and Sam was the first concerned face Cas saw when he regained consciousness to Sam saying, “Cas, are you okay?” Later, when Castiel felt the need to define “perp” to the Winchesters, Sam thanked Cas for it even though he and Dean both knew the word.
- In 11.04, Sam showed that he had faith in Cas when he acknowledged that, yes, he knew Castiel could be of help to them, but it was important for him to focus on himself, too. To that end, he told Cas to go into his room and watch Netflix.
- Cas spent the next several episodes (possibly weeks in-universe) recuperating in Sam’s room, sometimes on Sam’s bed.
- Also in 11.04, (not terribly relevant but because it was kinda cute) we had Cas and Sam geeking out about lore–how to kill a
Nachzehrer
and the dates after which pennies were only copper-plated zinc. Shhh, I thought it was cute.
- 11.06 offered a beautiful and poignant parallel. Switching back and forth between Sam and Cas and their respective battles, the episode showed us two men who were being derided and overpowered–two men who chose mercy when they were able. Sam handcuffed the demon rather than killing him, thus affirming his conviction to save people when he could instead of focusing only on ‘hunting things.’ Castiel chose not to kill Metatron.
- Sam mentioned his concern for Cas right after they left Hell in 11.10 (despite the fact that he was the most severely injured and had been subjected to Lucifer’s attempts at manipulating and degrading him during his entire stay in the Cage) and gave ‘Cas’ that adorable salute at the end of the episode.
- Fun fact: Sam was the first person to mention his worry about not hearing from Cas in 11.11.
- Castiel overcame Lucifer himself in order to keep him from further hurting Sam in 11.14, when he subdued the archangel with all his power not as the temporary effect of a spell, as in 11.18, but by choice. No big deal.
- In 11.18, Sam defended Castiel’s autonomy, saying his choices deserved respect. Again: Sam respects his friend’s autonomy and choices and will defend him to others.
- Castiel himself did not appear again until 11.23, when Amara removed Lucifer from his vessel. The finale ended with Cas walking into the bunker beside Sam, offering his support and saying he was “here if [Sam needed] anything.” When Toni Bevell greeted Sam before banishing Cas, Sam’s first instinct was not to face the threat, but to turn toward where Cas had been and call out for his friend. Only after that did he actually turn to face Toni.
But I mean yeah. Sam and Cas didn’t have any meaningful interactions at all this season.
When I was training to be a battered women’s advocate, my supervisor said something that really blew my mind:
“You can always assume one thing about your clients; and that is that they are doing their best. Always assume everyone is doing their best. And if they’re having a day where their best just isn’t that great, or their best doesn’t look like your best, you have to be okay with that.”
Any now whenever anyone in my life, either a friend or a client, frustrates me, disappoints me, or pisses me off, I just tell myself They are doing their best. Their best isn’t that great today, but I have days where my best isn’t that great either.
this. everytime. this.
“You’re alive?” Sam whispers, looking down at Cas, those blue eyes piercing through his freakin’ soul. “I thought you were…”
Cas smiles sadly. “You’re dreaming, Sam. I am – I am dead. But…I can still contact you like this. You must be exhausted; you should get some rest. Okay?”
Sam frowns at him, his heart beating rapidly in his chest. “No…you can’t be. Why…why would you be dead?”
Castiel reaches out, touching Sam’s cheek. “Shh. It’s going to be okay. Dean will take care of you – just as he always does. And I can take care of you, too – like this.”
Sam’s eyes are wet. “We didn’t take care of you, Cas. I didn’t take care of you.”
“Hush, Sam. It’s time to settle down. It’s going to be okay.” He leans forward, kissing the top of Sam’s head. “Please – – relax. For me.”
Sam surges forward, burying his face in Castiel’s chest. “Please – please don’t leave me.”
“Shh, love. I’m right here. I will always watch over you.”
*pulls out Moose Bucket ™️ to hold my feels*
I feel like the blogs that focus on specific a-spec identities don’t get as much attention as other a-spec blogs do so I wanted to make a list just so y’all know what’s out there.
Grey:
Demi:
@fall-in-love-with-a-demisexual
Lith/Akoi:
Quoi:
Flux:
Please feel free to add to this list, I’m sure I didn’t get everyone!
!!!
My dear lgbt+ kids,
It’s okay to have fun while exploring your gender identity.
With that, I certainly do not want to say that it isn’t scary. It is! Even just admitting to yourself that you question your gender can be incredibly scary and confusing and overwhelming.
To make the decision “I want to learn more about that, I want to learn more about me”, that adds a whole new layer of scary. It can feel almost outrageous to talk about “fun” here – it’s not a game, it’s not play-pretend.
You deserve to be taken serious – but that doesn’t mean you have to feel serious and miserable all the time.
You’re allowed to feel scared – but you’re allowed to feel excited, too!
Both of those feelings are completely normal. It’s normal to feel both (at different times or even a confusing mix of both at the same time). You don’t have to suppress either of them!
With all my love,
Your Tumblr Mom
Can you maybe write something about Sam telling cas the abuse he went through in the cage? After s11 in general it feels like Sam reacts to Lucifer the way victims react to their abusers and I need some sastiel fluff (with maybe a hint of nsfw)
“You know,” Cas starts, his voice quiet as he pets through Sam’s hair, “I’d always thought that…something like that had happened. But I never felt it my place to question your experiences down there, or to dredge up something so incredibly painful.”
Sam licks his lips, his mouth dry from talking. “Yeah,” he replies. His eyes are a little wet, his body pressed against Castiel’s. “It’s – you know. Time’s different down there. Pain’s different. Memories are…odd, the ones created there. “Seeing Lucifer? It just…”
Cas holds him tighter, stroking down his back. “Sam…I – I am so incredibly sorry. What can I do?”
Sam lets out a shaky breath. “You can just be with me, Cas. Just like this.”
So, I found these cool twitch channels that are doing drawing anatomy studies!! I am crap at drawing anatomy, so this is super good for me!! Look, @suniedaze83 and @megandgraziano I found a use for anatomy!! #anatomyjam #skulls #skullstudy #pencilart #pencilsketch #pencil #sketch #anatomy
Police Detective: SO you claim this boy is yours? *Gestures to Jack*
Sam: Yes, adopted
Police Detective: Yes, by you, your brother and ah uh…Castiel. Is that right?
Sam: Yes
Police Detective: Who is here with all of these undocumented people, some of whom are legally dead
Sam: I adopted them
Police Detective: And Castiel himself is not on any system anywhere
Sam: Double adopted. Infinity adopted. He is mine
Police Detective: Sir you can’t just adopt everyone and everything you-
Sam: *Picking up police dog*
Police Detective: Sir that is Officer Ruff. You can’t just pick him up and-
Sam: Adopted
Police Detective: No!
Sam: He’s mine now
Police Dectective: You can’t-
Sam: *Walking away with Jack while carrying Officer Ruff* Possession is 9/10s of the law! Mine now!
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