Why ‘female-presenting nipples’ matter

bixgirl1:

aibidil:

When I was 10, my mom made me wear a bra and it felt like a punishment for being different.

When I was 10, I took the bra off when changing for gymnastics and accidentally dropped it in the school hallway. A teacher picked it up and said, “Oh, this must belong to you” and handed it back to me in front of everyone. I quit gymnastics.

When I was 11, I thought maybe the boobs would be okay so long as they didn’t get any bigger than would fit in my hand, so I kept measuring it, but they did.

When I was 12, I started wearing two or three sports bras to smush them down, until one day a classmate said, “Are you wearing two bras?!” while laughing.

When I was 13, a boy told me he wanted to squeeze my boobs “until they popped.”

When I was 14, I got cast in a play as an older character and a classmate told me I got the role because I had boobs.

When I was 17, my mom told me to return a swimsuit because it would be too distracting for my boyfriend’s father.

When I was 21, I got properly fitted for a bra and everyone felt the need to tell me how much better my boobs looked.

When I was 26, I got pregnant and my immediate fear was that my boobs would get bigger.

When I was 28, I got shamed for trying to feed my screaming baby in public without a cover.

When I was 28, people asked me “why are you bothering to use a breastfeeding cover?”

When I was 30, people gave me weird looks that I wasn’t yelling at my kid for putting their hand on my boob.

When I was 31, I avoided going to the beach or pool because I didn’t want to have to deal with boobs in a swimsuit.

When I was 32, I got asked, again, “why don’t you get a breast reduction?”

When I was 33, I watched a 5yo girl get shamed for running around in sweltering heat without a shirt on and had to reprimand a bunch of tween boys who thought it was okay to shame her for doing something they do all the time.

When I was 34, my kid kept patting my breast and saying “Mommy’s squishy breast!!” They will never see me express any shame about tits, because I want them to have a different mindset than I had. Yes, boobs are nice! They’re squishy! They’re fun! That’s the end of that.

I’m 35 and no longer give a fuck. I don’t care anymore. As a teenager my tits were covered in stretch marks. They’ve been engorged with milk. My nipple changed shape with pregnancy. Give it another couple decades and my breasts will probably be all wrinkly. It’s sexual when I’m using it sexually. I don’t fucking care, and I won’t be ashamed anymore. 

Every time a policy or cultural hangup treats people with breasts differently, it fucks us over. 

Tumblr’s new policy makes an active choice to participate in this culture of shame. By classifying “female-presenting nipples” as explicit material, Tumblr has taken a stance that any chest or breast that differs from a male default is worthy of shame and unavoidably sexual. The idea that breasts are shameful and unavoidably sexual is exactly what fucked me up for so much of my life.

Stop shaming people for having bodies. 

*claps until my arms fall off*

queerstatisticaloutlier:

dragonheartftherpays:

queerstatisticaloutlier:

gigglygamer:

queerstatisticaloutlier:

thattranshotguy-alex:

queerstatisticaloutlier:

To anyone who’s having a rough time this holiday season, because of family, or lack thereof, or because of whatever situation you’re in:

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This is my blog’s holiday dinner table, and you are welcome here.

My table is open for anyone who wants to come share it with me. If you want to join me, then I consider you a part of my family, and I’m thinking of all of you.

can we have this but hannukah

Yes!

How about the Kwanzaa lovelies?

Of course!

I know it’s a bit late but can Yule represent too?

Absolutely!

threshasketch:

Heaven Help Them – Chapter 1

Gadreel returns from the Empty just as Sam, Dean, Castiel and Jack are trying to solve Heaven’s angel shortage. If they can overcome the past, they might just be able to secure Heaven’s future.

Rated T, Gadreel/Dean, Sastiel, Angst, Hurt/Comfort, Fluff, Guilty Dean, Good Person Gadreel, Emotional Baggage, Baby Angels, Mpreg (Only Not The Squicky Kind?), Baby Angels Are Lil Wavelengths So…Spiritual Mpreg, Jack Uses His Nephilim Powers To Help Heaven’s Angel Shortage, Witchcraft, Canon Divergent At 13.22.

Did I mention Lucifer is actually dead and Michael’s actually stuck through the closed portal and Jack gets to keep his grace? ♥

New chapters posted each Tuesday, and this’s looking to be a long fic – 20+ chapters.

Read Heaven Help Them chapter 1 here on AO3!

Can we please see the Christmas Squid

rodiniaorzetalthepenquin:

copperbadge:

drgaellon:

bunjywunjy:

picadreams:

gallusrostromegalus:

bunjywunjy:

sure.

OH, CHRISTMAS SQUID, OH CHRISTMAS SQUID! HOW BOUNTIFUL THY TENTACLES!

(he was made by my friend Teta and you can find her maker’s page here. also anytime you mention Christmas Squid you have to sing the song, it’s a House Rule)

This is the Best holiday decoration ever.

Best Christmas thing ever. I don’t decorate for Christmas, but if I did, I’d decorate with a festive cephalopod.

tis the season!

@copperbadge

DECK THE CEPHALOPODS JOLLY

FA LA LA LA LA…..

@mayalaen @karategirl80

Christmas squid!!!!!!! 🦑🦑🦑🦑🦑🦑

Hi world!!! I went to #bjj today after 2 months of not being in class for various reasons! I’m excited to be back but exhausted! It was hard rolling my tush out of my house tonight..and frustrating cause I couldn’t find my mouthpiece or my gi jacket, or my belt…but I found them and forced myself out the door!! I thought I looked kinda cute with my braid and my hat so y’all lucky ducks got a picture of me today 😉 #ontheroadtopurplebelt #karategirltrains (at Satori Academy of Martial Arts NJ)
https://www.instagram.com/p/Bq_THKGFLtB/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=o7snto2mvfug

pantsoftheseater:

This art may look familiar from over on @threshasketch. Now that the chapter’s up, I can say it’s a fic illustration!

8 Reasons – Chapter 2

Space pilot Dean is caught trying to break Sam out of prison, and ends up tossed into a cell with a half-man, half tentacly monster alien.

New chapters posted each Tuesday. ♥

Rated M, Destiel, Sci-Fi AU, Alien Octo!Cas, Space Pilot Dean, Prisoner Cas, Prisoner Dean, Prisoner Sam, Touchy-Feely, Tentacles, Snark and Sarcasm, Humor, Dean’s Tentacle Fetish Is Showing, The Impala Is a Spaceship.

Read chapter 2 here on AO3!

Forget About Instagram

threshafterdark:

threshafterdark:

I was so excited about this blog going over 100 followers the other day, and it’s going to be shut down at not even 2 months old. =/ As lousy as that is, there’s more than one place on the interwebs to post adult fanworks to be enjoyed by all the adults I KNOW are out there in fandom.

Instagram is a bust, by the way. Their TOS reads just like Tumblr’s new one, right down to the “female nipples” comments.

Anyway, thank Chuck for AO3. ♥

I have put everything that was on this blog into an AO3 “art book” with one art piece per chapter. Subscribe to see any new smutty art I post, comments and kudos always appreciated!

Check out the Threshafterdark Art Book here on AO3!

Signal boosts are appreciated on this one! I know not everybody uses AO3, it’s just kind of a dismal feeling to go from 114 followers here to 22 subs over there. Still, I’m very grateful anybody subbed at all on AO3 – if you did, thank you! ♥

P.S. if you are considering making an AO3 smut art book as well, know that you have to host the images elsewhere and embed them with a source link, just like folks do with bang art. Chapters require at least 10 characters, so putting captions under the pictures is a good idea. 

Flags

vrabia:

shanlonwrites:

earthstory:

I have had 3 mineral posts flagged as adult content today. They contained a tourmaline, a muscovite, and a galena. On Friday I had 3 fossil posts flagged as adult content, including a fossil fish, a fossil tooth from a mastodon, and a Tyrannosaur vertebrae. I’ve submitted appeals for each. This has been getting worse over the past month, apparently most of geology content is now only for adults. 

Apparently you can’t get your rocks off on Tumblr anymore. 

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