So let’s see, the person who nurtured Jack, who believed in him, who helped him understand what he was and to use his powers, the person who clothed, nurtured and fed him (because Dean at the time wasn’t interested in anything other than killing him), the person that panicked when Jack disappeared and did everything in his power to get him (and his mom) back, the one who Jack came to when Sam prayed for help, the one that tried to save Jack from his biological father and almost was killed in the process, the one everyone deferred to regarding whether they could take Jack hunting or not, the only guy to know Jack’s date of birth in the hospital. That’s the guy you’re saying hasn’t “earned” the title of dad?
Castiel, I’m going to give some credit to, he championed Jack when he was in the womb and defied Sam and Dean to do so, but what has he actually done for Jack in terms of active parenting since then? You know I love Dean, but no, a one day fun trip out and a hunt does not an active parent make, though he’s making up for it, and that was the point of the last two episodes. TO BRING HIM TO THE SAME POINT SAM ALREADY IS.
I know I’ve been somewhat triggered by this, but if that post doesn’t sum up parenthood, I don’t know what does. The active parent does everything and gets zero credit for it.
Kripke apparently calls Sam a “horndog” for having one (1) sex dream, and people suddenly say Sam has a “nice guy” exterior but is internally misogynistic.
Yet Sera Gamble wrote Sam’s one (1) sex dream, which was written entirely about the woman’s pleasure (if you know what I mean) and goes nowhere beyond that. In fact, Sam asks for explicit consent after she expresses her interest in his own dream. Whereas when we see a sexual dream of Dean’s about a season later, he’s watching two strippers and their attention is wholly devoted to him.
We also know that Sam doesn’t like strip clubs, for both moral reasons and for the fact that he has little interest in sex over the past years. But the last time we saw Dean in a strip club was when he had the Mark of Cain (which amplified his bad traits) and the bouncers tried to kick him out for sexually harassing the girls. Dean’s love for Busty Asian Beauties pornography is also a running gag for over ten years now. It’s no wonder Sam actively dislikes the sex industry.
In that same season, a young boy is granted invisibility and uses it to spy on women, and when Sam finds out that people in the town are getting their wishes granted, the first thing he does is to stop him even though there are several other cases to take care of. Yet we have scenes where Dean talks about wanting to see a naked pillow fight while crouched outside a window, and a deleted scene in In My Time if Dying where he violates a hospital patient’s confidentiality and privacy by watching her take her shirt off for her doctor while he is invisible to her, just like the kid Sam stops.
Sam doesn’t have a “nice guy” exterior because he’s not trying to get credit for that. His actions speak for him, and so do Dean’s. Dean frequently uses gendered slurs, expresses lust for teenage girls, etc. And the examples don’t stop, because we have 13 seasons of them.
Oh baby…this gif–I just want to cover his sweet, sad face with kisses, tuck that wayward strand of hair back behind his ear, and take care of my sweet, gentle Sammy for the rest of my life.
Karate, SPN Demonic Octopus Guardian 
